I made up a brand new holiday last week.  Throughout this coming year, I’ve decided I will celebrate “Appreciation Day” on the fifteenth of every month.  It is the one day of the month that I am committed to “tending myself”, to treating myself with what we therapists call unconditional positive regard.  It literally means unconditional love: gentle, present, self-affirming, non-judgmental love.  It’s revolutionary, if you think about it.  An entire day in a conscious attempt to truly accept and love yourself for no other reason than because you deserve appreciation. It turned out to be tougher than it sounds. In depth psychology there is a primary understanding of…